The woman’s story provoked quite a stir in the comments, with Redditors rushing to express their opinions.
- One person wrote, “Speak with an attorney asap. He doesn’t want a divorce because he doesn’t want to help with the kids. File for divorce and request child support and alimony.”
- Another user commented, “OP, THIS IS THE WAY. He doesn’t want to divorce because he’ll be ordered to pay child support. He’s not ready to actually support his kids is basically what he’s telling you. Then when this all blows up in his face (which it will), you’ll get to laugh in his face and cash his checks while he’s begging to get back together.”
- One more user advised, “And make sure you file emergency temporary orders for support and custody. The court pushes those to the front of the line.”
- Another person commented, “In my state, emergency orders have different requirements regarding service of documents, etc. A lawyer could advise OP on that. She probably could serve him at his parents’ house and call it a day.
If he works currently, the Child Support Enforcement Division of the Bureau of Economic Security will garnish his wages if OP obtains an order. They just run their SSN and do it that way. If he doesn’t, she can get back support ordered when they have the actual hearing.
If he owes arrears, the court can and will freeze his passport. That would solve OP’s primary issue of him running off.” - Someone added, “I’m very sorry that you are going through this. The guy is a pure evil, and you should take him for everything you can (which probably won’t be much). But at least, with the judgment on record, it will follow him for the rest of his life. I know the future is going to be very hard for you, but I wish the best of luck for you and your kids.”
- Another person wrote, “Even if you guys are split, why is he not financially contributing to your kids’ needs?? He doesn’t get to just up and leave, and you deal with everything. If he wants to leave, then adios, but he has to financially support/assist.
You need to talk to someone to take the next steps. Ask the friends that helped you before to navigate the lawyer process with you. This guy is a loser.”
Source: brightside.me
