My mother-in-law is seventy-eight and can no longer be left alone, yet she stubbornly refuses to move into a nursing home. Her memory is fading, and her health has been getting worse with each passing month.
Without even asking for my input, my husband decided she would move in with us. When he told me, I lost my temper. “I already have enough burdens!” I snapped. “I’m not a free nurse!”
He fired back, “She’s the one who helped us get this home! Show some gratitude!”
I didn’t argue further. Instead, I forced a smile and quietly took care of her that first day. But that night, when my husband was asleep, I silently went into the closet and began packing my things.
The next morning, he was stunned to find me packing my things. I looked him straight in the eye and said, “It’s either me or her.”
He just stood there, speechless. So I continued, “All these years, I’ve cooked, cleaned, and done your laundry without a word of thanks. If you’re such a believer in gratitude, then prove it—by taking care of your mother all on your own.”
It’s been three days since I left. My husband keeps calling, begging me to come back. He says he’s completely overwhelmed, trying to manage both the housework and his mother’s care on his own.
Now, I find myself wondering if I did the right thing. I don’t want to lose my marriage of eighteen years over this, but I also feel like I reached my breaking point.
Did I overreact by refusing to let my mother-in-law live with us? Am I being unreasonable?