I was taken aback when James demanded that we divide all costs equally after his pay doubled. At his urging, I was working part-time, but I only consented if we put it in writing. He has no idea that my consent is the first step in a plan, not a capitulation.

I never imagined that I would be the type of woman who sacrifice her job for a man. And yet there I was, at our kitchen table, sitting across from James, listening to him explain why it was a good idea for me to work less hours.

Our daughter Emily was only three months old, and he painted such a compelling picture of our future together.

“Think about it, Sarah,” he said

“We’re parents now, and I know you want to spend as much time with Emily as possible. Working part-time will let you do that.”

“I know,” I replied, “but I love my job, James. I’m not sure I want to make such a drastic change at this point in my career.”

Something in my gut told me this wasn’t right, but I pushed the feeling aside.

“What about my consulting projects? I’ve spent years building these relationships.”

“Those will always be there,” James assured me.

“But these early years with Emily? We’ll never get those back.”

The following six years flew by as we took care of our home, picked up kids from school, and worked part-time as consultants.

However, I sensed that something was lacking. I stayed in touch with a lot of my former coworkers, and occasionally it was painful to hear of their promotions.

As I balanced everything else, James’s career took off.

The night that altered everything then arrived. Excited, James rushed through the front door with a bottle of champagne in his hand.

“I got it!” he announced.

“The promotion. And wait until you hear the salary bump.”

“Now that I’m making this kind of money, we need to formalize our financial arrangement,” he said. “I think it’s only fair we split everything fifty-fifty from now on. Bills, groceries, the mortgage, everything.”

I waited for the punchline, but it never came.

“You can’t be serious, James. I only work part-time, remember? And it was your idea that I cut back my hours. I’m already stretched thin managing the house and taking care of our daughter. How do you expect me to contribute equally?”

He shrugged. “It’s not my fault you chose to settle for less.”

“I didn’t choose this,” I reminded him. “You pushed for it.”

“Yeah, but things are different now.”

“So, let me get this straight: you want me to manage the house, raise our child, and still contribute half of everything?”

“It’s only fair,” he replied. “We’re a team, aren’t we? And teams contribute equally.”

But I found nothing. His eyes glinted with excitement, and he grinned at me like a kid on Christmas.

“You want fair?” I muttered.

“Fine. I’ll agree under one condition: we make it official. We’ll draw up an agreement and have it notarized. Everything split right down the middle.”

“That’s a brilliant idea, honey!” James’s smile was all teeth.

“I’m going to have a busy day tomorrow, so why don’t you sort out the paperwork and let me know when it’s ready for me to sign?”

“Of course.” I clenched my teeth into a smile and sipped my champagne.

The months that followed were enlightening. In little time at all, he began to treat me differently.

“You should see the people at these executive mixers,” he said on one occasion, adjusting his expensive tie in the mirror.

“I would if you let me join you,” I replied stiffly.

James laughed. “You’d stick out like a sore thumb at the country club! No offense, babe, but it’s not the place for someone on your budget. Besides, it’s not really your scene anymore. You wouldn’t know what to talk about.”

I smiled and nodded, watching him become increasingly insufferable. The breaking point came when he announced he’d be attending an important networking event.

“The CEO is hosting a private mixer at that new restaurant in town everyone’s been talking about…” he paused, glancing over at me with a frown. “But I guess you probably haven’t heard of it considering your social circle.”

“Are you kidding me?” I said. “I’m not living under a rock, James. When is this event? I’d love to go. I heard the chef has an amazing reputation.”

“Oh, you can’t come with me. It’s high-level stuff,” he explained, patronizing as ever. “You’d feel out of place.”

I smiled faintly. “I see… well, good luck with your networking.”

Two weeks later, James came home looking shell-sh0cked. His expensive suit was wrinkled, his tie loose around his neck.

“They’re demoting me,” he said, collapsing onto the couch. “My position is being ‘restructured,’ apparently. But they didn’t just put me back in my old role — they gave me an even lower position! My salary’s worse than when I first started! It doesn’t make any sense.”

“Actually, it makes perfect sense,” I said quietly.

“That promotion? It came through my old network. Your boss, Mike, and I go way back. When I mentioned to him that my husband was looking to move up…” I let the words hang in the air.

“What?”

“But then, why have I been demoted?”

“It’s simple. I helped build your success, James. And when you showed me exactly who you are, I decided to take it back. And that’s not all.”

“This is ridiculous,” he sputtered. “It’s obvious this fifty-fifty split won’t work anymore!”

“If I made it work, I’m sure you can, too,” I replied.

The following two years were traumatic as we saw our marriage fall apart due to his bitterness. James was unable to cope with the role reversal and couldn’t bear to watch me thrive while he struggled.

That previous arrangement he had pressed for came back to haunt him once more when we eventually signed the divorce papers.