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I Loved My Stepdaughters Unconditionally, yet Their Rejection Made Me Finally Stop Trying

I’ve been married to my wife, Julia, for nearly a decade. When I met her, she had two daughters, Ava and Bella, who were 6 and 8 at the time. I genuinely loved Julia, and from the start, I knew I wanted to be more than just a stepdad—I wanted to be a father figure for Ava and Bella.

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Over the years, I’ve attended every recital, parent-teacher conference, soccer game, and birthday party. I’ve done everything in my power to support them financially and emotionally.

But my stepdaughters are now 16 and 18. Despite years of effort, they’re indifferent. No matter how much love and dedication I showed, there was always a barrier. Julia always assured me they’d come around eventually, but after ten years, I felt like nothing had changed.

Yesterday, things came to a head. I was helping set the table for dinner, excitedly telling the girls about the surprise trip to Hawaii I had planned to celebrate their upcoming birthdays. Ava, the younger one, rolled her eyes, while Bella sighed loudly.

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“What’s wrong?” I asked, confused by their reactions.

Bella crossed her arms, staring me straight in the eyes. Her voice was cold and emotionless as she said, “You’re delusional if you think you’re our dad.”

Her words crushed me. I stood frozen, my throat tightening. I had always known the girls didn’t fully embrace me, but hearing those words out loud felt devastating.

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After a few tense moments of silence, quietly furious, I declared, “Since I’m clearly not your dad, I’ve decided to cancel the birthday trip. It’s clear you wouldn’t want me there anyway.”

The room erupted in chaos. Julia looked stunned, asking me if I really meant it, while Ava accused me of “trying to buy their love” with the trip in the first place.

Julia later came to me privately, saying that canceling the trip was too harsh and only drove a bigger wedge between the girls and me. She said I should apologize and reinstate the plans.

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I feel conflicted. Part of me is heartbroken and angry—I’ve given a decade of my life trying to be accepted. Another part wonders if I reacted too impulsively, hurting my chances of ever connecting with them.

So, am I the bad guy here?

Source: nowiveseeneverything.club

Note: This piece is inspired by stories from the everyday lives of our readers and written by a professional writer. Any resemblance to actual names or locations is purely coincidental. All images are for illustration purposes only.

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